There's no such thing as a "Shidduch Crisis!"
What comes to mind when you hear the words "Shidduch Process" and
how do you make the "Shidduch System" work to your Benefit?
For the first time in a long time there's a need to explain the Torah view of marriage because there's so much talk of a "Shidduch Crisis". Yet, what we really have is a Marriage Crisis. We have been telling the secular world that there's more to marriage than feelings or love. Do we still believe that or have we changed our minds? Naturally, you want to marry someone with whom you are compatible. We have turned it on its head, however, and we go looking for "compatibility" but not necessarily for a "soulmate" for marriage.
Many who are looking for the right matches through the "shidduch process" are in so much pain and facing a most frustrating time of their lives-especially the older singles and those looking for a second and third time. I find that the biggest problem facing young people today is their lack of "preparedness" for dating for marriage (soulmate dating) and their low patience tolerance about the process of getting there. They may know what they "want" but few really know what they "need" in a good shidduch date.
What is the Purpose of Marriage? First and foremost, marriage means I have an important life to live and I need someone to share it with.
The Torah makes a point of telling us that Adam at first was both male and female. Then HaShem separated them and they became two people. After that He commanded them to become one!! Sounds confusing?!? What's the point? HaShem is telling us-Because I separated you, that is why you need to become one again. You can't feel whole when your're separated. Man and woman seek each other and marry each other out of a need to go back to being One. That's the work of finding our soulmate-i.e. finding our other missing half. That's why Divinely ordained "love" demands that we reveal our own Divine essence in order to recognize and reveal our true soulmate.
So how do we find our true "other half"-our own soulmate? How do we test for readiness for Shidduch Dating and what could delay the process? Sometimes inner "blockages" such as unrealistic expectations, superficial hangups, and the residue of past relationships can prevent us from even meeting and then revealing our true soulmate. We have to first begin by perfecting our own half. We have to really know ourselves and be the best "half" we can possibly be.
Learn how Devorah can help you make the Shidduch Process work to your Benefit by helping you evaluate your true sense of self, your values, goals, and directions in life. Your soulmate is out there.
That's not the question. The question is : are you where you need to be to find him/her? Are you "recognizeable " to him/her? Make a paradigm shift even during the first interview session. Don't forget, he/she's looking for you, too.... Let's work together to "let your Dreams be bigger than your Fears, your Actions be bigger than your Words, and your Faith stronger than your Feelings" so you can move on and meet your destined soulmate sooner than you think, G-d willing.
how do you make the "Shidduch System" work to your Benefit?
For the first time in a long time there's a need to explain the Torah view of marriage because there's so much talk of a "Shidduch Crisis". Yet, what we really have is a Marriage Crisis. We have been telling the secular world that there's more to marriage than feelings or love. Do we still believe that or have we changed our minds? Naturally, you want to marry someone with whom you are compatible. We have turned it on its head, however, and we go looking for "compatibility" but not necessarily for a "soulmate" for marriage.
Many who are looking for the right matches through the "shidduch process" are in so much pain and facing a most frustrating time of their lives-especially the older singles and those looking for a second and third time. I find that the biggest problem facing young people today is their lack of "preparedness" for dating for marriage (soulmate dating) and their low patience tolerance about the process of getting there. They may know what they "want" but few really know what they "need" in a good shidduch date.
What is the Purpose of Marriage? First and foremost, marriage means I have an important life to live and I need someone to share it with.
The Torah makes a point of telling us that Adam at first was both male and female. Then HaShem separated them and they became two people. After that He commanded them to become one!! Sounds confusing?!? What's the point? HaShem is telling us-Because I separated you, that is why you need to become one again. You can't feel whole when your're separated. Man and woman seek each other and marry each other out of a need to go back to being One. That's the work of finding our soulmate-i.e. finding our other missing half. That's why Divinely ordained "love" demands that we reveal our own Divine essence in order to recognize and reveal our true soulmate.
So how do we find our true "other half"-our own soulmate? How do we test for readiness for Shidduch Dating and what could delay the process? Sometimes inner "blockages" such as unrealistic expectations, superficial hangups, and the residue of past relationships can prevent us from even meeting and then revealing our true soulmate. We have to first begin by perfecting our own half. We have to really know ourselves and be the best "half" we can possibly be.
Learn how Devorah can help you make the Shidduch Process work to your Benefit by helping you evaluate your true sense of self, your values, goals, and directions in life. Your soulmate is out there.
That's not the question. The question is : are you where you need to be to find him/her? Are you "recognizeable " to him/her? Make a paradigm shift even during the first interview session. Don't forget, he/she's looking for you, too.... Let's work together to "let your Dreams be bigger than your Fears, your Actions be bigger than your Words, and your Faith stronger than your Feelings" so you can move on and meet your destined soulmate sooner than you think, G-d willing.
