We've been looking for compatibility but not necessarily for marriage. I often hear: "When I find someone I'm really crazy about, then I'll get married." In the secular world that's been the mission statement and the system claims some very attractive promises of happy marriages. For the last 50 years, people married only the ones they were crazy about and the divorce rate skyrocketed. Today it is higher than ever before. What happened to all those promises? They failed because they don't follow Torah's wisdom and we're not working the shidduch system right. If you do it , it works.
Don't get into a relationship. Get into a marriage. That means first and foremost define what 's important in your life now, what's precious about it and then find someone who shares those ideals and values. Define and describe for yourself your vision of a perfect ideal marriage relationship one year from now and search for the one you need to share it with. The "spark" can then be fanned into a full blown love that's based on a solid foundation of mutual respect, G-d willing. Be real focused and clarify if this is the person for you, your true soulmate. If yes, don't wait. Get married. (from the rich Torah wisdom of R. Manis Friedman-N'Shei Chabad Newsletter, June 2012 and Shimona Tzukernik-How to find your soulmate-The Kabbalah Coach)
With blessings for faith-filled "findings" of your true soul mate.