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Me She-nichnas Adar Marbim b'Simchah~!! 

Is there a more auspicious time in the Jewish Calendar to focus on your real Mazal?!? Is there a more joyous time  to strengthen your ability to know and perfect your true "self" and manifest the work of finding your missing half?!?  How can you allow someone into the most vulnerable and hidden places of your heart, trusting that your emotions will be well received?  That is the beauty of a committed relationship! Now's the time to chance it! Why? It's the month of Adar- the month when there's " power" available to access your true blessing, influence and "luck".
Healthy "Mazal" (מזל בריא) is most  available to you starting from today, Rosh Chodesh Adar!! 
On the one hand  it's written that"אין מזל לישראל " ("there is no "mazal" -astrological influences) that affect the Jewish people.  On the other hand the Gemorrah says, healthy "Mazal" (מזל בריא) is most  available starting from today, Rosh Chodesh Adar!! So which is it?!?   True, there is no power of the astrological forces on us-we have the power through prayer and Tshuvah to transform our Reality.   The real Power of Mazal is the Point of  Nothingness (Ayin) in the inner soul..Another understanding of "there is no Mazal among the Jewish people-"Ayn Mazal l'Yisroel"- is  "Ayin" is the Mazal of Israel-that quiet space of surrender when you stop identifying with all the external "stuff"....when you stop  running after the accomplishments, the dependencies on emotional attention, honor, and/or obsessive collecting habits.   Healthy "Mazal" is Knowing Yourself in a true, humble way by transforming the need to "exist" for yourself and bolstering loving relationships with faith and trust. 

 Start transforming yourself now (like in the Purim story) by turning all negativity (thoughts, speech , and action) into Joy!! THINK! before speaking (and/or writing)- Ask yourself:
T=is it True?
=is it Helpful?
I=is it Inspiring?
= is it Necessary?
= is it Kind?

Prepare yourself for communicating in a healthy manner with your future soulmate by increasing in prayer this month and make those quiet moments of "surrender" -inner dialogue-with HaShem count.  Your "soulmate" is out there looking for you.  Be the best half-soul you can possibly be and G-d willing, your efforts will be guided towards each other sooner than you think. Have a wonderfully, joyous month-Good Chodesh!
King Solomon says, "The person who's found a wife has found good". Your soul mate isn't someone outside of yourself.  He or she is the other half of your true self.  You were separated at birth.  If/when you can recognize your "other half" in your shidduch, it's like recognizing yourself!  That takes practicing living from the "inside-out".  Don't hold out for deep romantic love.  If you want to understand who someone else really is inside, if they're right for you, you first have to divest yourself of preconceptions, expectations and delusions.  You need a spark-but rid yourself of your rules and discover an entire world you never dreamed of or noticed.

 We've been looking for compatibility but not necessarily for marriage.  I often hear: "When I find someone I'm really crazy about, then I'll get married."  In the secular world that's been the mission statement and the system claims some very attractive promises of happy marriages.  For the last 50 years, people married only the ones they were crazy about and the divorce rate skyrocketed.  Today it is higher than ever before.   What happened to all those promises?  They failed because they don't follow Torah's wisdom and we're not working the shidduch system right.  If you do it , it works.

Don't get into a relationship. Get into a marriage.  That means first and foremost define what 's important in your life now, what's precious about it and then find someone who shares  those ideals and values.  Define and describe for yourself your vision of a perfect ideal marriage relationship one year from now and  search for the one you need to share it with.  The "spark" can then be fanned into a full blown love that's based on a solid foundation of mutual respect, G-d willing.  Be real focused and clarify if this is the person for you, your true soulmate.  If yes, don't wait. Get married.  (from the rich Torah wisdom of R. Manis Friedman-N'Shei Chabad Newsletter, June 2012 and Shimona Tzukernik-How to find your soulmate-The Kabbalah Coach)

With blessings for faith-filled "findings"  of your true soul mate.


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