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How can you know if you're afraid of Committment to Marriage or you're really not right for one another?

Do you start to feel uncomfortable, anxious and/or break off the shidduch or sabatoge the process in a way that causes the other person to end it??

Maybe you're not even aware that "fear" is the catalyst for break-up.  Perhaps you rationalize what happened by finding some justification for the break-up or claiming to "feel" pressure. 

If you recognize any of these issues as familiar, you should consider doing some self-introspection work with a qualified Shidduch Coach or Mentor.  Check out repetitive patterns in your dating history-i.e. do the break-ups happen often at the same stage in the dating process?  Do you avoid emotional intimacy and prefer to relate to her/him on a superficial level?  Do you see a pattern of actions that sabotage the relationship by antagonizing, offending, or scaring the dating partner?

It's time to move on in Joy- Free yourself of old habits.  Start pursuing Purpose in the Shidduch Process and Marriage - then watch your life become Happy.  Let's connect to learn how to overcome unproductive
 thought patterns that lead to feeling fearful, trapped or loss of control.  Download the phone interview  on my Contact Page for more information and feel free to fill out contact information so  you can begin right away to experience a fresh new approach to the next (and hopefully right) shidduch proposal. 

A Happy, Freilichen Purim!!!
Revealed Blessings,

Me She-nichnas Adar Marbim b'Simchah~!! 

Is there a more auspicious time in the Jewish Calendar to focus on your real Mazal?!? Is there a more joyous time  to strengthen your ability to know and perfect your true "self" and manifest the work of finding your missing half?!?  How can you allow someone into the most vulnerable and hidden places of your heart, trusting that your emotions will be well received?  That is the beauty of a committed relationship! Now's the time to chance it! Why? It's the month of Adar- the month when there's " power" available to access your true blessing, influence and "luck".
Healthy "Mazal" (מזל בריא) is most  available to you starting from today, Rosh Chodesh Adar!! 
On the one hand  it's written that"אין מזל לישראל " ("there is no "mazal" -astrological influences) that affect the Jewish people.  On the other hand the Gemorrah says, healthy "Mazal" (מזל בריא) is most  available starting from today, Rosh Chodesh Adar!! So which is it?!?   True, there is no power of the astrological forces on us-we have the power through prayer and Tshuvah to transform our Reality.   The real Power of Mazal is the Point of  Nothingness (Ayin) in the inner soul..Another understanding of "there is no Mazal among the Jewish people-"Ayn Mazal l'Yisroel"- is  "Ayin" is the Mazal of Israel-that quiet space of surrender when you stop identifying with all the external "stuff"....when you stop  running after the accomplishments, the dependencies on emotional attention, honor, and/or obsessive collecting habits.   Healthy "Mazal" is Knowing Yourself in a true, humble way by transforming the need to "exist" for yourself and bolstering loving relationships with faith and trust. 

 Start transforming yourself now (like in the Purim story) by turning all negativity (thoughts, speech , and action) into Joy!! THINK! before speaking (and/or writing)- Ask yourself:
T=is it True?
=is it Helpful?
I=is it Inspiring?
= is it Necessary?
= is it Kind?

Prepare yourself for communicating in a healthy manner with your future soulmate by increasing in prayer this month and make those quiet moments of "surrender" -inner dialogue-with HaShem count.  Your "soulmate" is out there looking for you.  Be the best half-soul you can possibly be and G-d willing, your efforts will be guided towards each other sooner than you think. Have a wonderfully, joyous month-Good Chodesh!

Kosher Soulmate